“Many of us do not enjoy the liberation of redeemed relationships because we are faking peace with one another because we lack the courage and conviction to expose our chronic condition of sin in our troubled relationships, marriages, families and, even, our Christian fellowships.” — Pastor Chris Chia
Been reflecting on this point since Paul Tripp’s talk last week on how our Christian walks are all a community project. Of course, Pastor Chris has, as usual, summarized my thoughts more elegantly – we are sinful and need a trusted community to continually point out our sins and help us grow in godliness.
It is ironic how we all know we need to be humble, yet, it’s so difficult to take feedback on our sins and opportunities. Even in secular work places, people generally agree that arrogance stands in the way of change that brings about growth and improvement. I, too, as a perfectionist-in-reform find it difficult to take feedback, especially when delivered harshly. I often brood over what people say to me for days even if it was just a passing remark. So, I pray every so often to become more humble and have stronger self esteem to take well intended and deserving feedback.
On the quote, Paul Tripps’ emphasis on being gentle comes to mind; not all people including Christians are ready for these redeemed relationships where we can all be totally truthful (gently) to one another. It is taking me years to have true, transparent relationships who can survive confrontation about my weaknesses, tension from the exposure and vulnerability. And I know there is still so much to grow and improve on, so much pride to rid of, for so many more of my relationships. It takes so much boldness and gentleness that I am still praying and working on. I also pray for all of us to be able to becoming increasingly humble to experience true community joy that will in turn help us grow in our walk with God.
“Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.” –Hebrews 10:23-25 ESV